The Dreaded 2 week wait. (2WW!)

So during the dreaded 2 week wait which is from the moment they put the embryo inside you until you are allowed to test if it is a positive or not. Each time I was given slightly different advice and so I want to list it here as to me I believed every little helped in the end. 

- Trying to relax! 

- Don't do any excessive excercise - Don't put anything warm on your tummy, so no hot water bottles, baths or pets. - Go for a walk once a day. - Avoid bending too much. - Don't lift anything. - No caffiene and avoid anything else you cant eat or drink when pregnant. - Lie down for 10 minutes each time after you have inserted your progesterone. (I'll get into that after!) - Eat pineapples (I did this the first & second time then it put me off them!) - Take your folic acid. - Drink plenty of water. - Try not to stress, do anything that helps you relax. But I would avoid massages and facials. 

- Something I found not strenuous and something to do was cooking, as you can take your time and get into it. Even if your not that into it normally! (Like me.)

- I got quite sick of eating Pineapple! 

This advice is all what was added up over time from various different people and if when we do it again I will do all of those things just to feel as though I really have done all I can, although it is also quite out of your hands. I seemed to get more and more advice as time went on. Quickly I should mention before the 2 week wait and the insertion you have to make a decision on wether to put 1 or 2 embryos in, with twins comes risks. We were warned of all the risks such as premature labour and miscarriage but we decided to go ahead and put 2 in. The reason that you put 2 in is not with the goal to get twins although 2 ofcourse would be a blessing but it makes your chances of one to survive higher. That sounds pretty cut throat but you have to go in with that attitude other wise things can get even more emotional than they already are. 

- Decaf Obvs!

Back to the 2 week wait, did I mention it's the longest 2 weeks of your life, well it was ours. It was horrible for me as you are on egg shells the whole time constantly second guessing your body, looking for signs of pregnancy or implantation. It was also horrible for my husband because I couldn't give him any information, I didn't want to get his hopes up by saying I feel different or make him worry by saying that I don't it's really a horrible feeling. It's a bit like when your trying and people say try not to think about it (which is so annoying!) you can't try not to think about this because something could be happening in your body or not and it's totally out of your control. We used something called embryo glue as we thought why not every little helps and when advised they also said yes if you like, I felt as though it wasn't really explained but we went ahead with that anyway. Everyone's journey and treatment are always or can be different! I had to take progesterone 3 times a day and from what I know progesterone is a hormone we produce naturally and it help keeps the baby alive if the embryo attatches. So after the 2WW at this hospital we had to do a pregnancy test with a home pregnancy test, both hospitals did slightly different things.

Unfortunately this time it was a negative. I remember being so gutted of course, but part of me told myself it is quite common to not work the first time. I think my husband was more shocked as we were told there will be no reason why it shouldn't work as the embryos are great quality, there's nothing physically wrong with us and we are young and healthy so understandably all of that really got his hopes up. From there we went for round 2 this time was a frozen embryo transfer. As they had been frozen the process is so different to before. You just go by your natural cycle, so you do your ovulation sticks at home, for those of you that don't know you wee on these sticks and they tell you wether you have low fertility, high fertility or at your peak fertility. Everyone's times are slightly different, my peak was always around day 17, day 1 always being the first day of your period. All these terms you learn as you go, just little things like that being your day 1, I didn't know. Why would you need to know that before. You don't! Once you have you ovulate and they scan you internally to monitor you around every other day to the lead up to the transfer. We put 1 embryo in this time and we used the embryo glue again, now apart from the progesterone and your folic acid you don't take anything else with an FET. (Frozen embryo transfer.) Then for the dreaded 2WW...again.  It was another negative. Each time this happened the loss felt greater and we felt a lot more gutted. But what else can you do but pick yourself up and they just put it down to bad luck after all they kept saying they don't know why it wouldn't work. So keeping positive was key.